Talking to school

A good relationship with school changes everything. You are on the same team, both wanting your child to thrive, and a little preparation goes a long way.

Before a meeting

• Write down two or three clear aims, what you most want to come away with.
• Bring specific examples from home, and your diary.
• Ask if a friend or advocate can come with you, two sets of ears really help.

Good questions to ask

• What support is in place right now, and how is it working?
• What is the plan, who is responsible, and when will we review it?
• Is my child on SEN Support, and what does the graduated approach look like for them?

Afterwards

Aim for a team relationship with the SENCO, warm, but clear. Always follow up in writing with a short email confirming what was agreed and by when. It keeps everyone accountable and gives you a record you can rely on.

If you are stuck

If a conversation stalls or you disagree, your local SENDIASS service offers free, impartial advice and can even come to meetings with you.